How My Parents Met

This is really interesting, but before we get to the cream of the chicken, let me just tell you how this topic came by.

A few days ago, I was accompanying my mum shopping around Manchester like any faithful obedient son would. My dress code however, was not very pleasing to my mum. I wore a grey t-shirt, dark navy blue jeans, brown belt, black lether jacket and a dominant blue scarf. (picture below) Reason: I look like a Pakistani. I asked her why, she answer, "neh, you know only those ah chas' like to wear lether jacket and scarfs of these patterns..." My brother, my sister and I exchanged looks and went, "yer, mamee... You're so racist wan."

It wasn't until later in the night, as she sat down on my sister's bed chatting with my sister and I did I found out the incident which haunts her past and present - but even more interestingly, how my father and mother got together. The flashback goes like this.

She once rented a house in Hammersmith in London to study hairdressing. The landord was an "ah cha". At first he was nice to her, but when she paid her deposit he became really irritating, accusing my mum of the things she did not do. That's how she came about having bad impressions of dark skined people.

As for my father: Before the house in Hammersmith, she lived in a flat, and my dad lived in the flat above. She disliked how my father and his friends behave and eventually moved out. But when this situation emerged - knowing not many friends and feeling helpless at that time, she had to call my father and his friends over so the landlord could be slightly intimidated. True enough, everything stopped, but my mum again decided to move back to the flat beneath my father's. Out of gratitude, by mum obviously thanked them and showed her appreciation in various lil' ways: and that was when my father began to woo her.

Funny thing this. My mother, the all most sensible person in the whole wide world said that, she knew - my father was not the man for her. He has got nothing in common with her. But she still ended up marrying him for reason which only feelings can explain at that time, unfortunately. And now look at both of them, already living seperately; on the brink of a divorce any day now.

Moral of the lesson from mother: when 2 people first meet, it's their passion and ideals which brings and holds them together. When 2 people get married, their marriage is the factor which binds them together, hence they think twice about divorcing. When a couple have children, their children becomes the binding factor for them to be together. When a couple's children grows up and leaves them, it is their common interests which holds them together until they die.

Anyway, what she basically meant was: factors which keep people together changes through time, hence the people will have to change in order to adapt accordingly.

PS: my sense of fashion is not THAT bad is it? =P